I’m Nerina, and I’m not a sobriety guru.

I did not look like someone who needed to stop. I looked like a high-stress professional who worked hard, kept the plates spinning, and deserved a drink at the end of the day. Life carried on. Nobody thought I was falling apart.

That was the problem. Being very capable makes it incredibly easy to hide what the habit is actually costing you.

Wine was my off-switch. It was there when the work was done and I needed my head to go quiet or to let off some steam. But while it looked completely ordinary to everyone else, I knew it was taking up too much room. I didn't stop because I hit rock bottom. I stopped because I was exhausted.

I was tired of the mental gymnastics and the heavy shame of broken morning promises. I was tired of the quiet and corrosive impact those promises were having on my relationships. I knew exactly what it felt like to be a little too eager to accept after-work drinks, and I knew the familiar regret of leaving the function two or three glasses too late. The sheer amount of energy it took to defend a habit I kept calling "normal" was draining the life out of me.

I know the woman who is too functional to be interrupted. I know her because I was her.

My clients are praised for how well they cope. They manage demanding jobs, run businesses, and handle their families. That competence is the perfect armour for a drinking habit, because nobody ever stops to ask if they are okay.

My job is to help you dismantle that armour. We will not sit around using therapy speak, and I will not hand you a label that does not fit.

I am a trained sober life and positive psychology coach (certified through Janey Lee Grace and Andy Ramage), and I have spent the last eight years sober. My experience means I understand the private reality of your 6pm negotiations. My training means I know exactly how to get you out of them.

When I tell you there is a method, I am not guessing. I have done the work on myself, and I am doing the work to coach you well.